Seeing just one side of the feeling
Sometimes partners tend to forget to see the other side of the story. This leads to quite a misunderstanding because if your feelings are emotions are important and genuine, so it the other side!
Dealing with the situation: Talk, and understand each other’s point of view before reaching conclusions. This will help you to throw the misunderstanding out of the window.
Judging the tone of the partner over electronic devices
Just an ‘ok’ or a ‘k’ in a response? Is he angry still? Did I do something to piss her off? NOO! It could also be because your spouse is in an important meeting, but wanted to acknowledge your text? Judging your partner’s mood over these smartphones is one common mistake today’s generation is making.
Dealing with the situation: If such things happen, call up immediately and clarify the doubt instead of carrying forward the baggage and venting it out for no reason.
Believing a third person’s insights
Nobody knows your relationship and partner better than you, not even your partner’s BFF. They may know one side of the man/woman, but not in the intimate way as you do. Sometimes, you may tend to believe an insight of a third person, which often is a reason for a lot of misunderstandings.
Dealing with the situation: listen to everyone, but before judging your partner on that basis, ask and confirm the fact with them. The clarification from your partner will help you to get a better insight.
Getting too lost in details that are not important
When you are looking for a vacation, you need not get into details of what clothes to carry! Because, those details are not necessary at the moment, as the bigger picture here is to finalize on dates and venue of the vacation! Give your partner a surprise and get inspired by these quotes.
Dealing with the situation: Be it an argument or a silly matter as stated above of a vacation, always clearly tell your partner patiently to focus on the bigger picture. Shouting or assuming is not the right way to deal.
How to Solve Misunderstanding Between Lovers?
Being a Good Listener
Its, after all, all about listening and responding to every detail of misery your partner is sharing with you. Making them feel listened and attended always takes you one step closer to much developed understanding. Don’t believe in blabbering out your discomforts and ending the conversation. Isn’t the point of every “CONVERSATION” is speaking your side and letting others speak there part?
You aren’t ALWAYS Right!
Agree to the fact that you aren’t always right. So, instead of focusing on just your feels and thoughts, lend a piece of mind to what your partner might be going through. Putting yourself in their shoes will make you capable of understanding your lover in a better way and develop more respect and love in relationship.
Take a Break – It’s Easy
It is normal to have a disagreement at some point that may lead to spinning the discussion to argument and possibly fight too! It is normal; trust me! But taking a break may give you or them a chance to reconsider the fight hence solving the matter quickly. Taking a break gives time to think and realise all the wrong words that came out of your mouth. Its makes apologizing easier and hence develops a better understanding.
Be the Ally, not the Enemy
If you consider your partner as an ally, it is totally psychological, that you will never find insulting each other an option – no matter how much the fight escalates. Being the ally and best companions of each other changes bitter perspectives during the fights and misunderstandings and resolves matters quickly. After all, you are a team!
Spend Time Together
Go on a date and spend thoughts that might have crosses your mind recently. Regular chats and conversations about normal regular topics will create such a deep sense of understanding between you two. Ask for your lover’s views in every small decision they feel respected. Involve them in every fun and always take out time for your lover no matter how busy the lifestyle is.
Accept that you can be wrong too. Accept that something which is absolutely normal for you cannot be fine for your partner. Accept that apologizing even when you are not at fault is not harmful. Accept that being is love is all about changing. You need to make some changes in your routine, values and even mentalities. Accept that your partner might be belonging to a completely different bachground and so life may be different for both of you. You change some and they change some!
Misunderstanding Quotes in Relationship
Where misunderstanding serves others as an advantage, one is helpless to make oneself understood.
In human intercourse the tragedy begins, not when there is misunderstanding about words, but when silence is not understood.
- The worst distance between two people is MISUNDERSTANDING.
- A single moment of misunderstanding can be so poisonous that it can make us forget the many loveable moments we spent together.
- Misunderstanding has only one parent – IGNORANCE.
- Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask “What else could this mean?”
- When nails grow long, we cut nails not fingers. Similarly when misunderstanding grow up, cut your ego, not your relationship.
- The true mark of love is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.
- The world today is ruined more by misunderstanding than by hatred. Hatred is born out of misunderstanding.
- Somewhere between love and hate lies confusion, misunderstading and desperate hope.
Misunderstanding Quotes between Husband and Wife
- Pride and Misunderstanding is the longest distance between two people.
Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding.
- “We’re all islands shouting lies to each other across seas of misunderstanding.”
- “We’re all born with selfish desires, so we can all relate to those feelings in others. But kindness is something made individually by each person…so it’s easy to misunderstand when others are trying to be kind to you.”
- “It’s dreadful what little things lead people to misunderstand each other.”
- “It was not death she feared. It was misunderstanding.”
- “Most of the trouble in life comes from misunderstanding, I think.”
- “Nothing is easier than for two people in love to misunderstand each other.”
- “Understanding” may become “misunderstanding”, if no commitment or no responsibilities are assumed, no specific objectives set, no definite expectations met and common values and interests no longer shared. Mutual understanding may then, against all odds, end up in heartache, confusion and bewilderment.
- “The problem is not the misunderstanding we have, but the understanding we have missed. We must come to come to a certain understanding; to understand understanding, we need to understand understanding and we must understand with understanding!”
The Emotional side v/s practical side shall always be kept on priority. Be emphatic where the situation demands you to be, while at the other times, be as practical as possible. This will help you balance out your relationship.